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We need to teach children social and emotional skills in much the same way we teach them their ABC's and their 123's. The Time-In ToolKit gives you everything you need to create a calming space for children ages 3-9+ for use in homes, classrooms, daycare centers, therapy settings and more.
Interested in learning more about using Time-in's? Here's a free printable with eleven calming strategies for you to color and share with your children.
Once personalized, just fold, staple and turn your printables into a calming strategies booklet for each child. Or laminate, cut your cards out and add a key ring to make a handy set of calming strategies you can keep in your bag, car, etc and take with you on the go.
These BONUS printable calming strategies are just a taste of what you'll find inside the complete Time-In ToolKit.
We need to teach children social and emotional skills in much the same way we teach them to read and write.
Taking a time-in is not a punishment, it is a way to help children learn to calm their body and process their emotions so they can problem-solve, learn and grow.
The Time-In ToolKit comes with a 90 page illustrated digital manual including 40 pages of bonus printables to walk you through the process of 1) creating a calming space and 2) introducing this space, along with the concept of Time-In's to children and 3) replacing time-outs and punishment in your home and/or classroom.
Children learn more from watching the things we do than listening to the things we say. The Time-In ToolKit helps us lead and guide children by example, nurturing their emotional intelligence.
SHIPPED COMPONENTS: full color on high quality paper
- PeaceMakers Mindfulness Card Game: 42 Cards plus instructions
- 35 Resealable Animal Stickers
- Meet the PeaceMakers Poster (works with the stickers): 20" x 30"
- My Moods My Feelings Poster: 20" x 30"
- 32 Feeling Faces Poster: 12" x 18"
- PeaceMakers Feel Many Feelings Poster: 12" x 18"
- Calming Corner Poster: 8.5" x 11"
- Calming Steps Poster: 8.5” x 11”
- Calming Corner Activity Mat: 8.5” x11”
DIGITAL MANUAL COMPONENTS: auto-emailed when your order ships
- Creating A Calming Corner & Using Time-Ins: 50 pages of instructions (PDF)
- Bonus Printables (PDF): This 40 page set of printables comes at the end of your Digital Manual to help you take Time-In's more powerfully into your home, school and/or therapy practice. Because these sheets are PDF's, they can be used with multiple children again and again at no extra cost to you.
For all ToolKit orders:
- Please accept emails when asked at checkout to ensure you receive the digital components of this kit along with manual updates in the future.
- One ToolKit is all you need for a child, family, or an entire classroom. You can add extra sticker sheets/posters/PeaceMakers if you like.
- This ToolKit was created to meet all children where they are and can be easily adapted for children with special needs.
- The digital manual alone and other elements of the ToolKit can be purchased separately.
When a five year old child misspells her name, do we sit her in a chair and tell her to sit there for 3 minutes to think about what she did?! No, that would be silly, and actually counter productive.
Instead, we break the task down, model the skills we are looking for in an engaging way, and reinforce each new budding ability we see emerging from this child. We make it safe for her to practice these skills and to make mistakes until eventually, she gets it.
Taking a similar approach to teaching children how to manage their bodies, minds, and feelings is equally helpful. We can meet children where they are, socially and emotionally, teaching them with loving, clear, and consistent boundaries, free from shame, blame, and pain.
As adults, we have the power to teach children how to manage their emotions and behaviors by modeling these strategies ourselves, however, remaining regulated in the presence of a child who is not can be challenging. Finding and maintaining our center as parents and educators working with children takes tools, support, and practice.
When we practice responding instead of reacting to kids when they are upset or overwhelmed, we help them grow their social and emotional skills. Research points to modeling as the most powerful teaching practice of all.
Set up a cozy, inviting space and establish your personal Calming Corner guidelines. The ToolKit comes with the "Creating a Calming Corner" manual devoted to holding your hand through this process.
Help children learn to recognize when they would benefit from visiting their Calming Corner. Using the playful games, tools, and strategies that make up the Time-In ToolKit makes this process fun!
With practice, children can begin to recognize the four different moods we all feel and put words to their feelings.
The first step to emotional regulation is awareness. This is the case for big kids too (that's you and me), helping us to respond instead of react.
By practicing self-awareness, we cultivate patience and self-control, both in ourselves and in our children.
Use your Calming Corner on a regular basis! There will no longer be a need to put children in forced isolation or to tell them to send them away, to their room, etc. When emotions run high, children and adults can take a time-in instead. The "Creating a Calming Corner and Using Time In's" Manual that comes with every Time-In ToolKit will guide you through this process.
And you don't need to wait until children are upset or acting out to visit your Calming Corner. Connection builds compliance. The behaviors we are looking for from children are easier to learn when they are feeling powerful, safe and connected. The Calming Corner is a safe, inviting "get-to" place kids go to feel better and learn, not a punishment.
The many posters, games, and tools included in the Time-In ToolKit help you practice talking about emotions with kids on a regular basis.
The digital manual that comes with the ToolKit will help you establish Calming Corner guidelines that suit you and your children's needs, inviting you to adapt these tools to best suit your home, classroom, day care center, etc.
A "time-out" (also known as social exclusion) is a form of behavioral modification where adults temporarily separate a child from an environment where unacceptable behavior occurred.
Though punishment based discipline like time-outs may lead to short-term compliance, they do not enhance moral behavior or teach children useful conflict-resolution skills*. While often well intended, punitive childrearing practices fail to address the underlying cause of a child's "mis"-behavior and are usually ineffective in accomplishing the goals of discipline: to change behavior and build skills.**
Spanking, yelling, shaming and isolating children can be harmful, lowering their developing sense of self, and trust for the world around them.
All children deserve to feel powerful, safe and connected. We have the science but we lack the skills. This is where the Time-In ToolKit and Generation Mindful's supportive community come in.
*Hoffman, Martin. (1970) “Moral Development.” In Carmichael’s Manual of Child Psychology, 3rd ed., volume 2, edited by Paul H. Mussen. New York: Wiley.
**Chapman, Michael and Zahn-Wexler, Carolyn. “Young Children’s Compliance and Noncompliance to Parental Discipline in a Natural Setting.” International Journal of Behavioral Development 5 (982): p. 90.
Children can learn self awareness, social awareness, self care and social skills in much the same way they learn to read and write, through modeling. We, as adults, deserve not only effective tools, but a supportive community to grow into these tools and to do our own healing and growing, free from shame and judgement.
The Time-In ToolKit makes connection, instead of punishment, a habit, nurturing children's social and emotional skills through everyday teaching moments at home or in the classroom. Here's an introduction to the idea by a few children who have been working with the ToolKit along with their mom and dad who have incorporated the approach into their family life and homeschooling.
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Q AND A
I want to intrinsically motivate my children. Can you explain how the ToolKit does this and how this is different from behavioral charts that rely on extrinsic motivation?
ABSOLUTELY! You hit the nail on the head. The Time-In toolKit is built around skill building, and teaching children social and emotional skills via modeling, not reward and punishment.
Just as coloring and blowing bubbles can be fun, engaging activities for children, free from conditions/manipulation, so too can playing with stickers. Sadly, we have a negative association because using of stickers with children playfully and respectfully has been abused (gold stars, behavioral management charts, etc).
This kit has been created specifically to help homes and classrooms replace the "behavioral management approach" by instead nurturing emotional intelligence in both child and adult. The activities in the toolkit are built around regulation (noticing, naming and expressing our thoughts and feelings). The stickers are a way to playfully engage with children while tracking which PeaceMakers card was pulled that day, and as a record of the learning that occurred (Reggio Emilia). Children do not need to interact with the stickers in any way if they do not wish too! and they are not given in exchange for a behavior.
Peeling and sticking are great for fine motor skill-building as well. For more on PeaceMakers, the positive affirmations/cards included in each kit, please visit here.
Do you ship internationally?
Yes! We proudly ship everywhere in the world. After you place an order, we will send you a tracking number along with delivery updates.
The recipient is responsible for any applicable duties, taxes, and fees. Please be aware, if you live in the UK, imports fees there have been as high as US$22!
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