Extra Set 35 Resealable Stickers (In Time-In ToolKit)
Have you ordered the Time-In ToolKit but find you could use an additional set of 35 resealable PeaceMakers animal stickers that come in the kit? Then this extra sticker sheet option is for you.
This is an extra sheet of stickers. One set is already included in every Time-In ToolKit. An extra sheet is ideal if you have many little hands that will be using the ToolKit and/or if one gets lost or damaged.
Children learn more from watching the things we do than listening to the things we say.
One ToolKit is all you need for a child, family, or even an entire classroom of kids.
This extra poster set is intended to support you in creating multiple calming spaces or for decorating multiple areas/rooms. Please be sure you already own PeaceMakers or a Time-In ToolKit when you order this extra set as these materials work with elements of the complete Time-In ToolKit not included here.
When a five year old child misspells her name, do we sit her in a chair and tell her to sit there for 3 minutes to think about what she did?! No, that would be silly, and actually counter productive.
Instead, we break the task down, model the skills we are looking for in an engaging way, and reinforce each new budding ability we see emerging from this child. We make it safe for her to practice these skills and to make mistakes until eventually, she gets it.
Taking a similar approach to teaching children how to manage their bodies, minds, and feelings works equally as well. We can meet children where they are, socially and emotionally, teaching them with loving, clear and consistent boundaries, free from shame, blame, and pain.
As adults, we have the power to teach children how to manage their emotions and behaviors by modeling these strategies ourselves, however, remaining regulated in the presence of a child who is not can be challenging. Finding and maintaining our center as parents and educators working with children takes tools, support and practice.
When we practice responding instead of reacting to kids when they are upset or overwhelmed, we help them grow their social and emotional skills. Research points to modeling as the most powerful teaching practice of all.
Set up a cozy, inviting space and establish your personal Calming Corner guidelines. The ToolKit comes with the "Creating a Calming Corner" manual devoted to holding your hand through this process.
Help children learn to recognize when they would benefit from visiting their Calming Corner. Using the playful games, tools and strategies that make up the Time-In ToolKit makes this process fun!
With practice, children can begin to recognize the four different moods we all feel and put words to their feelings.
The first step to emotional regulation is awareness. This is the case for big kids too (that's you and me), helping us to respond instead of react.
By practicing self-awareness, we cultivate patience and self-control, both in ourselves and in our children.
Use your Calming Corner on a regular basis! There will no longer be a need to put children in forced isolation or to tell them to send them away, to their room, etc. When emotions run high, children and adults can take a time-in instead. The "Using Time In's" Manual that comes with every Time-In ToolKit will guide you through this process.
And you don't need to wait until children are upset or acting out to visit your Calming Corner. Connection builds compliance. The behaviors we are looking for from children are easier to learn when they are feeling powerful, safe and connected. The Calming Corner is a safe, inviting "get-to" place kids go to feel better and learn, not a punishment.
Though punishment based discipline like time-outs may lead to short-term compliance, they do not enhance moral behavior or teach children useful conflict-resolution skills*. While often well intended, punitive childrearing practices fail to address the underlying cause of a child's "mis"-behavior and are usually ineffective in accomplishing the goals of discipline: to change behavior and build skills.**
Spanking, yelling, shaming and isolating children can be harmful, lowering their developing sense of self, and trust for the world around them.
All children deserve to feel powerful, safe and connected. We have the science but we lack the skills. This is where the Time-In ToolKit and Generation Mindful's supportive community come in.
*Hoffman, Martin. (1970) “Moral Development.” In Carmichael’s Manual of Child Psychology, 3rd ed., volume 2, edited by Paul H. Mussen. New York: Wiley.
**Chapman, Michael and Zahn-Wexler, Carolyn. “Young Children’s Compliance and Noncompliance to Parental Discipline in a Natural Setting.” International Journal of Behavioral Development 5 (982): p. 90.
Children can learn self awareness, social awareness, self care and social skills in much the same way they learn to read and write, through modeling. We, as adults, deserve not only effective tools, but a supportive community to grow into these tools and to do our own healing and growing, free from shame and judgement.
The Time-In ToolKit makes connection, instead of punishment, a habit, nurturing children's social and emotional skills through everyday teaching moments at home or in the classroom.